Decisions, Decisions

Last week the children and I attended an end of the year cookout for the local Islamic middle school/high school. It is a very small school with a total of 18 students (13 girls and 5 boys). The school is 6 years old which is still very new. They are in the process of earning their accreditation.

We had been invited to come give talk to the girls here about our Islamic Girl Scout troop. The principal was very welcoming and hospitable. In terms off the children, Yahya felt more comfortable than the girls as he had played soccer with the brothers who attended the school years ago. I am not sure if this is how it is in general with Muslim girls or if it is just where I live, but we really have never felt like we have fit in anywhere except for Girl Scouts but that is probably because my 5 girls make up almost 1/3 of the troop.

Anyway, after the cookout a sister who has a son at the school called and offered to make a home visit with a few others in order to answer our questions about the school. In other words they are trying to increase enrollment and are attempting to recruit my older children. I flat out informed her that Yahya’s contract is already signed and that this currently isn’t the school for him. They don’t have enough boys to form any type of sports’ teams. Also, we are unable to pay anything else in addition to his tuition. She mentioned that there is a possibility of sponsors so Hannah’s and Jamilah’s tuition wouldn’t be a problem and allahu alim.

So, here we are. I have been making du’a for something like this. Some sort of help with the girls’ education. I admit that I need help and I am not able to give them what they need academically on my own. I did ask them if they wanted to go to school and at first they both said that they didn’t. As we kept discussing it though, they do seem a little interested. It is a chance for them to spread their wings and get some time away from their sisters so that they can focus on their own academics. At times I feel like they should stay at home, but when I see them sitting around on their beds and just being lazy, it really bothers me. I know that they aren’t pushing themselves as hard as they could if they were to go to school.

No doubt that there are pros and cons to both situations. I would really appreciate some feedback from you sisters, insha Allah.

8 responses to “Decisions, Decisions

  1. Assalamualaykum,
    I think you should give it a go inshAllah. If it is affordable it seems like a good idea. If it doesn’t work out they can always return to homeschooling. If the environment seems good and you are confident that their characters and Deen will be safeguarded there, then I can’t see any drawbacks really.

  2. Oh, I see. So hard to tell until it is too late on that one. Make istikhara inshAllah.
    Replied to your comment on teen employment on my blog, by the way.

  3. Assalamu alaikum,

    I think you need to pray a lot about this. Ask Allah for guidance and for signs as to the best decision and pray istikharaa insha’Allah.
    But ultimately Umm Tafari, choose what you feel will benefit YOU and the rest of your family.

    Ask Allah to guide you to what would be most pleasing to Him and keep on making this dua. Then whatever decision you take as long as it is based on that, you will feel a sense of peace and comfort in that. May Allah make it very easy for you. Ameen x

    • As salaam alaikum Umm Raiyaan,

      Such a pleasure to read your feedback, maashaa allah. Jazakillah khayran for the reminder to turn to Allah. Insha Allah, he will guide our decisions.

  4. Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,

    May Allah make it easy for you and guide you to the right decision, ameen.

    Pray istikhara inshaAllah and maybe also speak to families who attend the school to get their feedback.

    Umm Yusuf

  5. anonymousmuslimah

    Assalamo alaikum,

    Just catching up with all of your news now. MashaAllah well done on the results, it must be a huge relief to get it over with!
    Regarding the school, I would make istikhaara and go for it. If the financial help is there, view it as an opportunity not to be missed. If you are not happy, it isn’t a one way street, you can always go back to home ed.

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