The Real Deal

Yesterday, I had intented to blog more about some recent discussions I had with a fellow homeschooling mother. So, I will continue on today as I wasn’t able to fully concentrate yesterday. We continue to meet with the homeschool co-op on a weekly basis either at the park weather permitting or at the library when it rains. This past week we meet at the library and I had a enlightening conversation with another mother. She had also recently considered school for her daughter and visited her local public school with her upcoming middler schooler. She has also felt that she is unable to give two children the opportunities necessary for success through homeschooling. They decided against school for her daughter next year, but we both have to come to the conclusion that unless you are able to financially afford tutors, classes, etc. that our homeschooling children are at a disadvantage.

I have slowly realized this over the years actually and through my friendships with you sisters around the globe. Truly no one person can give their child/children everything they need on their own. There is no doubt that this takes a village and I am really seeing the need for extra hands more and more as my children get older, as I get older, and as I have had more children.

Anyway, the conclusion of this particular conversation was that even if we continue on this homeschooling path, the children aren’t going to be tested on science or history which always falls to the backburner over here. When they do take the SAT (college entrance test), the test will just cover language arts and math. So, this was reassuring to me as it is all I can do to just cover those basics over here. As for the science, well my husband has promised to contribute more and maybe the children will finally be able to get their hands dirty with the chemistry set that has been collecting dust for years now. And as for the history, we do cover it but in a informal manner through literature and field trips mostly. It is the best I can do on my own.

Now, this mother isn’t Muslim although she is very interested in Islam and I do continue to make dawah to her. So, we didn’t discuss the Qur’an memorization or Arabic or Islamic Studies aspect of Islamic homeschooling. Qur’an memorization and Arabic have been on a stand still over here for several years now. I do manage the Islamic Studies as best as possible through the halaqa and reading books here in English. Again, we are in need of a tutor for these subjects. May Allah help us all and accept our efforts. Ameen.

7 responses to “The Real Deal

  1. Assalamualaykum,
    Interesting post. I am wondering whether your SAT tests are much more difficult and rigorous than what we have here, so harder to do from home. Or maybe it is that you have a different structure to your system. Here the first proper testing comes at age 16, and many homeschoolers mange to do these exams with very little outside help. Many students seem to study mostly on their own and still do ok. Also tutoring is widespread and common for schooled students, so many parents expect to pay for that anyway, even if their children attend school.
    The next lot of exams at 17 then 18 is very different. Very few students do these through the homeschool route. It is possible, but most acknowledge it is too difficult to achieve without professional teaching. Here a lot changes after age 16.
    I think it does young people good to get input from a wider range of adults. ideally, to me, this can be achieved through a homeschool context. Co-ops, one or two outside classes, a little tutoring, clubs etc.
    Whatever happens, don’t be disheartened, inshAllah. The priority in reality is deen and good Islamic character. Actually these are the most precious things we can pass to our children. More precious than test scores. We mostly need our children to make dua for us, inshAllah.

    • Wa alaikum as salaam ummrashid,

      I did feel much better about the fact that for the testing, we only need to be concerned with language arts and math. I feel that that is feasible to accomplish without a tutor. I just have guilt about the other subjects that the girls girls would like to learn about in more depth. Also, if they are homeschooled through high school they will need a transcript covering the core subjects-biology, chemistry, physics, foreign language, math, language arts, physical education, and electives. Now most of those subjects I will not be able to teach myself.
      Insha allah, praying for opportunities and doors to open.

  2. Is high school from age 16?

  3. Ok, i think you have more requirements than we do, which makes it tougher.

  4. as salaamu alaikum

    missing reading you regularly. soo busy! i emailed you once but it bounced.
    inshaAllah my 11 year old (eldest dd) is starting 1 day a week at islamic girls school for science and arabic in september. boys (almost 13 and 14) will have science tutor and all 3 maths tutor together.

    wish it was easy to speak on the phone. think of you lots. stay strong sister.

    if you fancy any (very relaxed) penpals, let me know
    (boys are almost 14,13 and 5 and girls 11, almost 9 and 5 + baby (and mama almost 35 ,P))

    much love x x x x x x x

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