Revisiting Oldies but Goodies

Hawwa and Siddiqah had seen poster advertisements for the annual Sheep to Shawl event at school and begged us to go. We had been a couple of times within the last several years and were not really too excited about it, but we took them anyway and they enjoyed it.

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As the children grow older and we have more children of multiple ages, it seems to get more difficult to please everyone as far as family outings go.  Teenagers aren’t interested in the same things the younger children like especially if there are no friends involved. It is starting to become a struggle. May Allah make us stay close as a family. Ameen

8 responses to “Revisiting Oldies but Goodies

  1. Assalamualaikum Umm Tafari.
    We are also visiting some good oldies, your Nature Study guide. I just took it out this week and was planning new activities based on it. May Allah reward you for putting it together.

  2. Assalamualaykum,
    It is rare for us to all go out together also. Usually my husband would go with the boys and I would go with the girls and Faris. Even if we went somewhere all together we would probably split into two groups while out. I don’t think this makes us further apart because the kids appreciate that we are taking their opinions into consideration. Making them go on group outings which they don’t enjoy might just cause resentment any way.

    • Wa alaikum as salaam ummrashid,

      We always give them options as well. Yahya usually goes and does his own thing. I offered Hannah and Jamilah to stay home, go to the library, or come along. They wanted to go to their friend’s house across town or go shopping. Neither alternative worked for me. Allahu alim.

  3. anonymousmuslimah

    Assalamo alaikum,

    Yes I am hearing you! What can you do, though? I try to turn it into a lesson that you have to take others’ needs into consideration, as well as your own. I do make sure to try to give everyone their choice on equal rotation though.

    • Wa alaikum as salaam umm salam,

      This is part of what has contributed to my parenting burn out. Never feeling like I have met their needs enough. Constantly putting their wants and desires before my own and my marriage has taken its toll.

  4. anonymousmuslimah

    Yes same here! I am slowly forcing myself to accept the fact that in order to be a parent I do not need to be a constant entertainer. I think it is just inbuilt though, Allahu ‘alim.

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